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| Celebrate Sweetest Day: Throw a Party for Your Sweets |
Time to make Sweetest Day 2018 your best "adventure for one" yet! In September, I wrote about the independent joys we find on our own and that we can be happy regardless of relationship status (see Adventures for One: Finding Independent Joy), but that doesn't mean single people operate solo all the time. We need people, too! And I bet you have non-romantic relationships that mean the world to you. In fact, single people often have even larger social networks than their coupled compatriots who may limit their interactions to time with each other. "Adventurers for One" are great at being alone but also dedicate a lot of time to their friends, families, and communities. We benefit from this variety of social interactions and, as a result, have a lot of love to share.
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| Puppies love each other. |
For this sweetest day, think of how many lives you touch every week and what you can do to show them your appreciation. Think of the lady at the coffee shop who always gets your drink right. Your co-workers who don't steal your food from the communal fridge. The librarian who knows your name because you're always picking up new books. Your parents whom you (should) call a couple of times each week.
Our lives are full of people who take care of us in small ways and bring our emotional balance sheets out of the red and into the black (see The Balance Sheet of Life), so what can you do to make their days sweeter? A tip for the lady at the coffee shop. Cookies for your co-workers. Some chocolates for the librarian because she holds your book requests longer than the normal three business days when you can't get your act together and get over there in time (just me?). An extra phone call to your parents.
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| Giving Flowers to Others as a Sign of Appreciation |
Being kind to others is a sure way to an endorphin high. By thanking those who make your life easier, you reap the immediate happiness benefits while nurturing relationships that help you all year. And as for those jerks who bombard your life, be sweet to them, too. If their bad attitudes are from neglect, your kindness may remedy that and win you a friend. But if your kindness doesn't even crack the ice, screw them and move on. ...Sigh.... Or maybe I should tell you to forgive them and try again later. I'm only human, okay?
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| Here's how I self care. Cheers! |
Lastly, take care of yourself this Sweetest Day. Buy yourself flowers and chocolates, take yourself to that movie, or just write down what you like about yourself. I suggest not doing this as a balm to pain because you'll only end up crying over that chocolate cake. Do these things because you love yourself. I promise you are worth the extra care.
Happy Sweetest Day, my friends! I appreciate and adore all of you!.
Cheers,
The Super Spinster
